Article Credits: Ying Yang
Don’t blame yourself.
Acknowledge that this is not about you; it’s about the bully. Don’t lose your confidence, or think you are incapable or incompetent. They are usually beating you at a mind game, not based on your actual work performance.
Do your best work.
The bully’s behaviour will seem more justified if you aren’t doing your best work, or if you do things like come to work late, take long lunches, turn in work late, etc
Seek professional help.
It will help you deal with the stress, especially if the bullying is already affecting your physical and mental health. You have to take care of yourself. It is time to start talking to other professionals who can help you manage this situation. Contact us on “firstname.lastname@example.org”
Maintain a healthy and balanced lifestyle outside of work to help you cope with the madness at work. Work out, get a good night’s sleep and eat a healthy diet.
Learn everything you can about bullying, your company’s policies on inappropriate behaviour and occupational law regarding this kind of experience. The more you know, the better your chances of successfully dealing with this situation.
Don’t expect to change the bully.
Real behaviour change is difficult and it takes time. You have no control over a bully’s willingness to accept that they have a problem and to work on it. You can do your best to manage the situation, but it’s really the company’s responsibility to be observant and responsive to the needs of their workers and the general work environment. In the worst-case scenario, you may need to leave your job or be prepared for a long hard fight with your bully and your employer.
Don’t play their game.
An African proverb says, “If a donkey kicks you and you kick it back, you are both donkeys!” It’s easy to let someone push your buttons and for you to fly off the handle at them. However, you should ensure that this doesn’t happen. You really don’t want to stoop to their level. In a professional environment, you have to show respect for your work and your colleagues. Try your best to ignore the bully and their actions.
Set the limit.
Remember that you could respectively set limits on what you will tolerate and exercise your right to tell the bully to stop the behaviour.
One Final Advice
Bullies are “only effective when they’re on solid ground. So, you need to shake their solid ground so that they take notice.
- Tell the bully exactly how their actions are impacting your work.
- Tell the bully what behaviours you will not put up with in the future.
By making statements about the bully’s conduct directly to the bully, you’re putting them on notice. Keep up your game, don’t lose your temper or composure, but calmly let them know that you are serious about not allowing them to walk all over you.
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